Toys can spice
up your sex life!
If you're looking for something to
give your sex life that extra kick - then toys are
the things that can do it.
I always thought about playing with
toys, but never went out and got any - until a friend of mine on the east coast
helped out and I now have a couple in my possession. One of the most common toys
is the dildo. These are (can be) fun to use.
They usually come in a larger than life size, and
can present a fun challenge to a bottom. They can also be used as a substitute,
when a man isn't available. Someone once said to me,
I
would never stick anything artificial up my ass for the sake of pleasure.
I pity him- when I got to "test
drive my dildo I was in 7th heaven. Here's a picture - of the dildo
boys, of the dildo! Not of me
using it!
It should be noted that I've had
quite a bit more experience with dildos and some other toys since this "sexguide" was first written. Though a sequel is on
the way where I will be exploring other areas of queer
sexuality, I do want to add something to this section.
Dildos are often seen
as man substitutes. This isn't really accurate because the difference in sensation
between having a dildo or a cock up your ass, is like the difference between night and day. There is a level of intensity you can achieve by
being screwed with a dildo that is near impossible
to have with a man. This is one of the reasons why it's a great deal of fun to
have your partner fuck you not only with his cock, but
also with a dildo. Mind you I'm not saying
that one experience is better than the other. What I am saying is that they are very different and they complement
one another.
When buying a dildo, I wouldn't waste money buying vibrators, they break down, are a pain
to use, and frankly don't do that much for a man. If you are going to pick one
up, I recommend getting one that's nicely textured (lots
of veins) and is of a good size that you can handle.
I had the occasion to use a double headed dildo
with someone in the past and that was a lot of fun!
For those of you not familiar with them - what you
see wrapped around the dildo is a cock ring. The
way a cock ring works is that it constricts blood flow out of a penis, but not
into it. So more blood is flowing into your cock and less out. I should note
that you put it on around your shaft and your balls,
not just the shaft. This has the effect of making your cock even harder than
normal. A lot of men who have problems maintaining a hard-on for extended
periods of time, are rather fond of them. A cock ring works for almost anyone,
and is certainly a lot of fun for your partner because your cock gets a lot more
texture to it.
Unless you know exactly the size that you need for your cock, I would recommend staying away from the metal ones. They can be very
difficult to put on, and even more difficult to take off if you start feeling
discomfort. The rubber ring cock rings are pretty much a waste of money. They
tend to be a pain because they often pull on the hairs on your crotch. So for those starting out, I would recommend
one that is made out of leather and has metal snaps
on it so that you can adjust it to for different sizes and levels of tightness.
Now a lot of things can be a toy. There a lot of
things I've fantasized about that I look forward to trying one of these days.
Some of the things that were suggested to me - whipped
cream placed on strategic parts of the body. For added taste you could
add strawberries.
Try putting an ice cube in your mouth while like licking various parts of your partner's body, or even while giving him a blowjob. For those of you that are beer drinkers (I have done this one) - try taking a mouthful of beer and sucking your partner's cock with the beer in your mouth. He's bound to give you a reaction of one sort or another.
When flight attendants work on a flight, we
sometimes rinsed our hands with champagne, and it
felt wonderful! Have you thought of trying to pour champagne over parts of your
partner's body?
Various articles of clothing can also constitute
toys. Jockstraps for example - ever try fucking
some one with a jockstrap on? Snapping the straps of his jock against his ass
while you fuck him. It would certainly be an interesting visual. Speedos, lycra, spandex, silk, and other
such things have always turned me on tremendously. I love a guy in a Speedo, or
silk briefs. It's fun to tease him by fondling his cock, licking it, even trying
to suck him through that soft smooth material.
I look forward to trying more and more toys in the
future, and I hope you do as well after reading this.
One last thing before I let you go. This page hasn't recently been updated to reflect my recent
explorations within the realm of toys. Such an update is in the works, but until
it's up and running I do want to leave you with a link to an
excellent resource both for buying typical and hard to find sextoys, as
well as expanding your boundaries by exploring all that is out there. I
found Mr. S Leather Co. and
Fetters U.S.A. in San Francisco to be absolutely the
best place to make your kinky purchases, with a knowledgeable, courteous,
and very friendly staff. So give them a visit, and
tell them I sent you !!!
IMAGINATION!
