HOW TO:

There's more to fucking than just in and outFucking a guy should be as much about giving him pleasure, as getting it for yourself.
Before becoming a good top, you need to be on the bottom first. (This is where a dildo starts becoming handy... more on the TOYS page...)The reason for this? Simple. If you don't kwow what it feels like, you won't have anything holding you back from thrusting as fast and as hard as you can. You won't know the subtle little things that can make the difference between a good experience and the most painful thing you've ever experienced in your life.
One thing that you can do to enhance your partner's pleasure is to use longer, slower strokes. A lot of guys tend to slip inside their partner, and just use quick short strokes. This can help the top get off faster and that (generally - at least from the abused bottom's perspective) is the only good thing about doing this. It makes it get over with quickly, and the pain is bearable only because you hope and know that it will end quickly.
Slow things down. It feels good to have a guy's shaft sliding in and out of you, as long as it isn't too much to fast. Slow is a good thing. The feel of him inside you lets you know they're in there, and the slow strokes don't rub you raw in fifteen seconds, lubed or not.

If you're a guy with a sizeable endowment (read; BIG DICK; congratulations!), or a guy with a partner that doesn't get fucked too often and is really tight, there are a couple of things you can do to make things easier (as well as more pleasurable) for him, and if he's happier, you will be too.

One is to first loosen him up. You can rim him or you can finger him. Select a lube that you prefer if you're going to finger him (Nothing goes ANYWHERE without a little lube. Just ask any mechanic). Slowly (notice this word? I'll quit using it eventually. Maybe...) work a single finger up his ass and see how he reacts, then try two, if you're feeling adventurous and so is he, try three. Don't move the fingers in and out too much, let your partner get used to idea of having something inside of him. Patience (as well as SHORT fingernails) is a must here. If you try to stretch him too fast he'll break (or at least start hurting and wanting to back out) remember, sex is fun. If it isn't fun, it isn't sex.

Once he feels comfortable (If he doesn't, go for oral this time, and invest in a cheap TOY he can loosen himself up with), try slipping just your cockhead inside of him. As you feel it slip in STOP and hold it there for a while. As your partner adjusts push in a little more. If you see your partner wince, stop and WAIT, or pull out just a little if he needs you to.

This way you should eventually be able to get most if not all of your cock inside of him. Once you do, use the long strokes we mentioned earlier for the maximum amount of pleasure.

Try not to pull completely out of him while fucking. That can cause air to get packed inside your partner's ass, and can lead to some rather embarrassing results. Though slipping the cockhead in and out of your partner's ass can be a wonderful way to tease him, if you're in a more playful mood and don't want him to know what's coming next.

OK... We've gotten inside. We're using the slow strokes you're so obsessed with. Now what?

Well, you don't want to forget about your partner's cock while fucking him. You've probably seen... that army movie... or at least that one part of it... "Only steers and queers come from Texas, and you don't look much like a steer!" He goes on to gay bash the poor boy, but it seems hypocritical. He says something about not being courteous enough to give him the reach around. If you can get ahold of it, PLAY WITH IT! - unless he tells you to stop. I find that having mine played with helps make it feel better. If the boy I'm with stops for too long, it starts to hurt. Of course, it can be hard not to cum REALLY quickly when there's someone inside of you can playing with you at the same time. This is where he (the bottom) will tell you to leave it alone. Even then, you might want to play with it a little and keep him right at the edge, or only stop for a few seconds to let him recover, then start up again without him asking you to. That's nice :)

It can be fun to slap his ass playfully while fucking him (but if you do that to me, you're pulling out and we're not talking for a week).

Fucking can get pretty routine. If you're used to one or two positions then I urge you to try new ones. I won't suggest any here, because there are just so many that you can get into*
(That little pink * means there's a footnote. Scroll down to see it. There's more scattered around the site. Look for them :-p )

Encourage your partner to try new ways, and if he's reluctant, get started, pul out, switch positions and go back in. Chances are once you get him going, he'll be UP for just about anything.

If positions aren't enough (GOD you're a little hornball!) try different locations. Try to avoid public places... unless you're sure you can keep from getting arrested. The dance floor of Oz in New Orleans is a great spot. Not that I have any knowledge of this, nor have I witnessed any such activity on the club's premises.** Bed rooms get boring. Don't like clubs? Head out to some secluded country road and bend your partner over the hood of a car. On the balcony of your house/apartment? In a sex club or in a hot tub? Have you ever done it on a hillside while overlooking a beautiful view, or on a beach on a starry night (sign me up for this one. Someone living in Venice? I wanna give it a shot... k?)? You can try different places around your house too. Be creative. Be fun. Be fucking like little bunnies without the side effects of children! Boys will be boys, but they won't have any more...
Still use protection till you know your partner and have both gotten tested. You can never be too careful. Besides, some condoms can enhance the experience. The typical Trojan? Not so much. There are some out there though... such as the Pleasure Plus condoms. If there's a free teen STD testing clinic, they'll have a wide assortment of condoms for you to play with. They'll probably give you lots of free ones too. They might not be as fun, but they're better than nothing. Less lecture, more sex talk? Ok... sorry.

When it comes to lubes there is a wide variety of choices that are available to you. Everything from spit to tons of commercial brands. Personally KY Liquid is my favorite. It comes from any grocery store/walmart, it's fairly cheap, and the big bottle has little grippy things on it! It's also water based so it's safe to use with condoms too. KY Jelly, as well as most lubes tend to get too sticky, or they dry up, or they can be way too slick, or they are a big pain to clean up. Don't wanna go to your local store and buy lube? Use lotion - Keri Silky Smooth Formula is pretty good. There are a lot of water based hand and body lotions out there. Lotion tends to be easier to clean up because it absorbs into your skin a bit. KY liquid does this too. My ex used it as hand lotion instead of buying different things. Whatever you think you wanna use is probably good. (This, you sick freak with a food fetish, is where you can REALLY enjoy yourself.)Just be careful with oil based lubes (or just baby oil. Or Crysco. Or butter. Or...) and condoms. Bad mix.

Above all, Creativity is the most important thing when dealing with sex and fucking. Routines get boring and make your boyfried want to go somewhere else to get off. Keep him interested and you'll keep him longer. Coming in a close second is Communication. Talk about what you like, what you want to try, and then DO IT! If your boy doesn't know your fantasies, he can't go about making them true. Same thing works the other way too. If there's something you can't stand, let him know. Sex isn't sex if it isnt' fun. Did I say that before? I thought so. It's important. Talk about thing you like to make sure they happen again. Talk about what you don't like, then try something new. Talking about and planning your next intimate excursion can be almost as much fun as actually doing it. Sometime's it's more fun, like... when your mom shows up all of a sudden and you have to cancel your plans...

In summary;

1. Use long, slow strokes
2. Talk about what you want/don't want; like/don't like
3. Be creative
4. Have fun.
5. USE LUBE!
6. Fuck long, fuck hard!
Fuck out in the yard.
Give it your all,
Keep your boy toy in thrall.